We like to think that ending up alone isn’t the end of the world: women force themselves to be The Independent Woman and men lie to themselves pretending to be The Ultimate Bachelor. However, from hooking up casually, to falling hard,  to getting dumped, we dissect our relationships, taking in every casual glance or hand gesture, trying to find a way for them to last.

As we grow older, and our beauty fades away, we are faced with the harsh reality that our personalities might not be enough for our “happily ever after”. So from a young age, we engulf ourselves in the tangled webs of love, dating, and the opposite (or same) sex. So I ask you, are we all really okay ending up alone? Or do we all just explain ourselves into relationships for the sake of being in a relationship?

For all those non Frenchies, the above title says: It’s better to be alone than in bad company. Sure, it seems easy to say that we’d rather be alone than date someone who you know is wrong for you, but like almost everything, it is easier said than done. The greatest fear for a woman is ending up alone with her twelve cats, dying in her sleep on either Tuesday or Wednesday because no one really knew… Except her cats of course. So instead, we fake it. We fake intimacy, love, orgasms, breasts, just to feel loved. If you really like someone, should you have to fake your orgasms? If you don’t really like someone but are afraid of being alone, is it right to fake intimacy?

A recently married friend of mine just told me “It’s better to marry someone who loves you more than you love them.” And she’s right, we don’t go out to find passionate head-over-heels, can’t-live-without-each other love, we search for comfortable showering-with-compliments love. Yes, love is a two way street, but hopefully on your side there are two lanes to welcome the love, instead of just one. This way, the ego is soothed and the end could still be “happily ever after”.

The Independent Woman and Ultimate Bachelor to the rescue!!!!

The Independent Woman and Ultimate Bachelor to the rescue!!!!

But for now, fake it ’till you make it,

Laura Marianne

“Charlotte: If I end up old and alone it’s all your fault.

Samantha: Charlotte, sweetie, we’re all alone even when we’re with men.”

Sex and the City, “They Shoot Single People, Don’t They?”, 1999

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